Saturday, September 17, 2011

Bangkok weekend nights

Saturday was a different story. This was a whole day full of adventure. Four different countries: Italy, Spain, Romania and South Africa on a hunt to visit as much of the city as possible. Everything started with a great taxi driver - Charlie - who amazingly spoke a bit of English...and recommended us to take the boat on the Canal. I must add the fact that this city is huge, but every street you go on looks exactly like the other, so you constantly have  the felling that you are going around. The amazing thing is that taxi drivers have no idea where main streets actually are. I don't know if this is because they actually have a different name in Thai, or we don't pronounce it correctly or...I don't know, but it is confusing. Anyway...here the taxi is the best and only way to get around, even if the traffic is horrible!!

Anyway this turned out to be a great experience as we got to see a different side of the city. The side which is even poorer that what we saw on Patpong.

On the Canal people actually have their houses in water. The image of people washing themselves, clothes and probably getting water to cook from the dirty Canal was a shock. Children leave here and I even saw somebody who had a dog on the porch. Some literally have a 10 cm of water in their houses. I have to admit that some houses were really nice, but all in all it just looked like a permanently flooded city.

We also passed Wat Arun, a Cambodian model temple. I always thought Cambodian architecture is really nice, but now I am sure about it....definitely on my list.

...and we also saw this giant golden plated Buddhist monk statue's back...I have now idea what it was..

As soon as we got off the boat a new era began for my smelling senses. I think this is the city with the worst smells I have ever felt in my life. Nothing could ever beat this. The thing is that they don't sell just objects in their street markets (which are on every street), they sell food...meat that stays for a whole day in a terrible heat, fruits and dried fish (which is absolutely the worse).

Our goal was to see the Royal Grand Palace, but I've learned that you should never make plans in Bangkok. Everything happens really fast and one plan becomes another in a couple of seconds. Instead of going to the palace we got on two tuk tuks which took us around the city for a couple of hours. The experience was great, until one of the tuk tuks broke....and to fix it the drivers tries to connect the two with a rope that obviously broke when we started the engine...but it did get the other one working.

The story never ended because it was too long and exciting...to many things to write down...

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Bangkok classical nights

After a shocking experience yesterday at Pat Pong street market, today we had a sip of the classy part of Bangkok's night life.

First things first...the conference was great. We had two young and talented key speakers that did a great presentation on social media/ social market and the need for a shift in the industry's paradigm. Tomorrow I will have my last and final presentation...Chris did it for me today, I just assisted here and there...too lazy...the garden in the second photo is the mini jungle I was talking about. Today I saw a squirrel while someone was presenting...my attention span suffered for a few minutes :)

After the meeting, we went to a great restaurant for dinner - Baan Khanitha - with a Hello Kitty bus :). We only had Thai food, which I must say is very strange. I ate a lot...really did, but I still felt hungry...For aperitif we had some sweet sauce and peanuts and other stuff rolled in a leaf...I have no idea what they are called...and of course rice and curry chicken and curry pork (or at least I hope it was pork)...and some spicy stuff...yeah, not a big fan I must say....

Of course we had to do something else, so we went to Red Sky restaurant. This is a classy must see in Bangkok situated at the 55th floor of a building. You can really see the city from above while listening to nice piano/ live music...

Bangkok continues to amaze me. On Friday it was our last day at this year's conference. This has been so interesting and fun that time simply went by. I will so very miss them...next year we have IESF's 10th anniversary and it's Europe's turn to host the meeting...in Milano. Till then though I have a Regional to do in Tel Aviv...another new city for me and another great experience to come!

It has been decided by everybody that for my own safety they would pay for my hotel during the weekend, so on Friday I checked out and checked in again after about 2 hours. So, I am not alone here this time :) 

That's why after the meeting we went to a Thai Massage. That was a first for me...a painful first. The girl doing the massage was about my size...and just about as bony as I am. So imagine my elbows pressing on you finest nerves. Just when I was about to relax a painful move followed...I went from a love to a hate and full of bloody wishes relationship with that girl from one moment to the other. But the place was really neat and at the end I really meant the "thank you". 

The rest of the night was just a mega spicy dinner at Maha Naga where we went again with our Hello Kitty bus :)

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Bangkok wild nights

My trip to Bangkok deserves an every day post. I'll make it a photo post... I just have to say AMAZING...I would never ever in my life wish to live in such a place but it is worth visiting. You have to plan a trip here!!...I don't know whether Asia in general is like this, but if you want a cultural shock, Bangkok is the place to be. And I am saying this after just one day.

So here I went...

First stop - Istanbul airport. I could already feel the oriental air. The airport is like a huge Bazar...crowded and a true place for cultural diversity, people in flip flops and short pants along with women wearing a burka. I always loved airports, but this one was indeed special. Istanbul from above is huge...like a never ending sea of lights. It is definitely on my list...

When I got to Bangkok, after a night slept on a airplane chair...I had to go back and forth from one agent to another because they weren't sure whether I needed a visa or not. As soon as the mystery was solved and I finally got my visa...I couldn't find my bag. The belt where it was suppose to be stopped and nothing was left on it. A kind man led me to the lost luggage room...and there I found my blue travelling seahorse :)

The cab driver couldn't understand where I wanted to go, so he called someone to help him...anyways, he had a nice religious symbol above the left seat of the car...here they drive on the right, which makes it even more exciting.

At the hotel, the wonderful Nai Lert Park, because I am one of the organizers I got to meet everybody...and got a free tour of the mini jungle I live in now. The hotel is amazing, in the middle of a crazy city such as Bangkok they recreated the feeling of a resort...simply wonderful. At night I get to hear birds and other nature sounds I have never fallen asleep on. Of course, I got a really cool room, with  a pretty view :)

The first day of the conference went out perfectly. Everything was according to plan! As much as I am pissed sometimes I missed all of them, and I feel very family like when I am with them. They have so many stories to share with me and every time I meet them I find out so many marvellous and unique insights about their culture and the way they do business. I wish I will have the courage some of them have. I love my job...I just wish it was more challenging. They all hugged and kissed me, loved my new haircut and especially my tattoo, which they haven't seen until now.

...we went out to one of the street night markets. I can tell you Bangkok never ever sleeps...and what happens in Bangkok stays in Bangkok....and these are not just sayings. It was extreme...I have never been surrounded by so many poor people, fake objects (bags, clothes, watches...anything you wanted) and sex. Everywhere we turned there was a list of Ping Pong and other erotic shows. They even allowed you to take a 1 minute glimpse. There were bars with girls in swimming suites, with numbers that you could just pick...not to mention transvestites. Crazzzyyyy....

We ended the night in a bar where there was a live band. One of the singers was a transvestite of course, you get everything here. They were absolutely amazing. They could sing anything, absolutely anything you asked them in a perfect English. Great talented people in a bar in a night market in Bangkok...pitty. Because I was singing along, the transvestite singer gave me the microphone and allowed me to sing with him...

We went home in a tuk tuk race which we (the girls) won....:)) and I am alive...can't wait for tomorrow.

Sunday, August 28, 2011

Lili & Ghita my two new ★

Lili (Lili Ten) and Ghita are my new fostered baby cats. They are not brothers, but they were both unlucky enough to be abandoned and lucky enough to be found. Now they are looking for a house, together or separate, as they are both very independent cats. They are both about a month and 1/2.

Lili is the perfect Tim Burton movies cat. Black, skinny long legs, big green-yellow eyes and a perfect silhouette. She's going to make a great pet for somebody who learns to appreciate her. She loves milk and like any cat loves to purr and cuddle.

Ghita is a small but very brave little man, who can't wait to have a house to play in. He's very deceiving as he likes to pretend to be a scared little cat...lost and alone...but soon shows his real personality and starts running and playing...He's also very proud and doesn't give in the purring game so fast...you have to show him lots and love and make him trust you before he will act like a "small kitty".

They are well educated, clean cats and they both need a permanent house as soon as possible.

Sunday, August 21, 2011

♥ Alba Iulia

This weekend we visited one of Romania's best and for a while forgotten cities - Alba Iulia. We went there because of Dark Bombastic Evening's 3rd edition and ended up bedazzled by everything that surrounded us.

The fortress is currently being restored and what they managed to do until now is simply wonderful. Our dearest guide (mr. Andrei - the nanny) took us around in a very efficient and informative way. The fortress is about 300 years old and was built by the Austro-Hungarian Empire. Before that, 2000 years ago, there used to be a Dacian settlement here....depending on who owned the land the place evolved into the beautiful and still mysterious biggest Vaudan Fortress in Easter Europe. You can read its story here: http://www.apulum.ro/ro/istoria.htm  I'm extremely happy to have seen such a wonderful place in dear, old Romania.

Other than the fortress you can also visit the two huge cathedrals set one next to the other - Orthodox and Catholic...a great cultural trip if you ask me. The Catholic one was built in the XI - XII century. Till this day everything is written in Hungarian first and then Romanian. The Orthodox one was built about 700 year later and this is where Romania's king Ferdinand and his wife Maria were crowned.

In front of it there was an archeological site, and they were just digging out some bones...unfortunately the story of the place was not yet available to tourists.

There are other things to see, such as the University and the Great Union Hall and its Museum...The city is also rather beautiful...and to my surprise pretty big...typical capital snob :)

The festival - Dark Bombastic Evening's first summer outdoor edition was absolutely wonderful. We loved the music and the place where we camped. The food was also delicious and we had things to do.

Monday, August 15, 2011

I said it looks like you Summer Well

A great festival for hipsters took place this weekend close to Bucharest. They've chosen a great location...an old palace and it's surroundings. Not perfectly organized, but everything went out well. Lots of fun things to do and a great place to sit by the lake and talk, read or nap.

Five bands each day, brit pop mostly. I went to see Interpol...and I got my band there. I love them but the show was poor. Someone had a very good point in saying that their concert was great, but they sounded like a loud played CD...mr. Banks did not get friendly with the public at all....except for a couple of thank yous and a cute smile.

On the other hand the lead bands from the first day - Noisettes and Plan B - did a hell of a show. The lead singer from Noisettes looks dreamy...a singing black Barbie.

Sunday, July 17, 2011

My summer weekend trips

Summer is when everything turns towards the sun. Summer is when you make new friends and fall in love. Summer is when you travel and discover new places…and this is just how my summer is.

We are already half way through the holiday season and the unpredictable is still around the corner.

Places I visited in Romania this summer:

1. May - Macinului Mountains

A great place to turn into a prolonged weekend!

Macinului Mountains are the oldest mountains in Romania, a Hercinic chain (I think in Toledo – Spain you find something similar). Their altitude varies from 7 to 467 m….small but strong. It’s a pleasure to go from one pick to the other. Though it feels like a small walk on mountaintops, once you get up you feel like you just climbed the highest mountain on Earth. The rocks look very powerful and give you feeling of strength. The landscape is greatly unique; it’s impossible not to be impressed.

Extra to that, the fauna is just amazing. The climate created a wonderful combination of ecosystems (Mediterranean, Central European and Asian). Though they only occupy 1% of Romania’s territory, they have over 50% of the countries fauna:
- 1770 plant species (a lot of them very rare)
- 181 bird species
- 47 species of mammals
- 1436 species of insects
- 11 species of reptiles

Extra to that, there are a lot of wild animals that you meet along the road there

Not very easy to access, it would be good to know the road before taking the trip.

Though every website says that you actually have to pay to enter the Natural Park, nothing is organized there…so we had no idea about this. Just as nothing is organized related to the entry, nothing is organized for camping either. There is a small place where you can place your tent, but it depends a lot on what other people are there at the time. We had a big surprise to have neighbors that day. Though it’s a monastery just there, they had very loud, very bad music…and were getting ready for a BBQ. We were lucky and had the best place ever to set our tents, in a nearby village in the garden you one of our friend’s grandfather. Unfortunately I cannot give you a solution if you get the luck we did.

2. May - The Muddy Volcanoes (Vulcanii Noroiosi)

Perfect for a one-day trip if you leave in Bucharest. The place is in Buzau, a county that’s only 100 km from Bucharest. The road is fine and easy to get around. You can bulls eye the place even if it’s your first time there.

When you get there, you have to pay a very small fee to get inside. Then, the fun begins. What you can see it’s mini volcanoes created with the help of natural gases that come out from over 300m underground. Everything looks extremely muddy and in the places where the mud was dried by the sun it looks like a deserted planet. If it weren’t for all the green around the are, the landscape would be very lunar.

This phenomenon is very rare in the world, so if you happen to be in Romania, it must be on your list.

I recommend walking barefoot around the volcanoes and sticking your hand into them as deep as you can

We also tried visiting surrounding tourist attractions – such as the Chihlimbar Museum – but we’ve been told that the road is really bad and you basically need a 4X4 to get there. Hopefully this will change soon, I’ve been there while in primary school and it is beautiful!

If you’d also like to eat, as you go down to the main road, there’s a great place at the crossroad. There you can also try traditional food from the region.

3. June - Vama Veche

This is a traditional, not surprising place to have on my list.

If you want to experience freedom and heavy drinking on the beach till morning, catching the sun rise from the sea while listening to Bolero, then this is the place to be. The place is not the same as at used to be, but the feeling of freedom is still there. 

You can choose to put your tent on the beach or find a good shadowed camping place in somebody’s garden, or find a cheap room at the people in the village or a more expensive one at the hotel.

You can choose between eating at a restaurant or on the side-walk with a plate in your hand. You can also eat freshly captured fish….or the best pancakes in the world.

4. July - Hasmasul Mare Mountains – The Lonely Stone (Piatra Singuratica)

A long road from Bucharest…very long. If you make a lot of pit stops and visit the places around, it’s a 8 hour road trip.

One of the places to visit in the area is Lacul Rosu, a natural lake formed in 1837. This is the largest mountain lake in Romania. The name – Red Lake – comes from the color of metal residues. It’s also called the Murderer’s Lake, as the legend says that a pastor and his sheep were caught under the slipping ground. (http://ro.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lacul_Roșu).

The little detour is definitely worth. Once back on the road you have to be patient till you reach the little town of Balan. This is where you can leave the car and get ready to hike. The mountain hut is at an altitude of 1504m, but the way up is not very steep. If you take it as a pleasant walk through the forest it takes about 2 hours to reach it. The road starts and ends very rough, but it’s worth every single drop of sweat.

Up there it's wonderful and the hut, which has just been remade, is great. We slept 16 people in a room with 9 beds and it was perfect. Unfortunately there’s no “toilet”…at all…anything, except for the forest We had a wonderful host, she even cooked something for us. We also had a campfire in the evening, a horse to ride and dogs to play with.

That part of Romania is simply wonderful and impressive - clean and neat; with good roads and flowers everywhere. We saw many storks

If you take a longer trip you can visit a lot of other places in Harghita. This is the source of natural sparkling waters and an area full of resorts and spas.

 5. July - Vadu

My middle of July trip – a first timer again – Vadu Beach. They say that this is stil a vergin beach. A large sand limb that goes directly into the Black Sea. A lonely place which gives you the sea and it’s wonders as they naturally are. There’s nothing here….no lifeguard, no garbage place (you have to take it back with you), no supermarkets and ahm…no toilets or showers. It’s just you, the sea and your tent.

Officially you are not allowed to camp there, but the beach is filled with tents.

But, the place does not seam different from others at the seaside anymore. The wilderness is not really there anymore. The beach is clean and you can find lots of unique pebbles...and the water is very clean with tiny fish in it. At the same time there are lots of bugs and mosquitoes.

If you want to spend a day and night without water in a killer sun and with bugs around you...than it should be fine. I felt really good here, but I couldn't take more than a weekend.

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

ADOPTED Lilith!

Lilith (Midnight) este o pisicuta in varsta de 2 luni, cu o blanita semilunga, pufoasa, de o culoare deosebita - darkly red. A fost preluata din fata unei curti unde fusese abandonata pentru simplul fapt ca este fetita. "Stapanii" nici nu s-au gandit ca o simpla sterilizare ar fi putut rezolva orice problema...au preferat sa se scape de grija aruncand-o...

Ca orice mic aristoCAT (este un metis de Angora) este o pisicuta foarte curata si alintata, toarce la ce amai mica mangaiere si se joaca cu orice pare tentant. Este o pisicuta foarte sociabila atat cu oamenii, cat si cu alte animale. Ignora obstacolele si ca o invingatoare trece pe langa ele ca si cum nu ar exista.

Este deparazitata intern si extern si stie sa foloseasca litiera. 
E mai greu sa facem poze dar vreti sa ma vedeti mai bine ma gasiti si aici:

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Skiping murder

This weekend I had two major events with Robi - Pet Expo and the wonderful Street Delivery. We had lots of fun and good time spent together, rain and almost a record beating number of adoptions. I am kitty less for the week...and hopefully for a longer time :)

One of the ladies who adopted my fostered cat - Sisa, gave us a pretty bad start. On her way to our stand she saw two new born kittens thrown in a box, somewhere close to the centre of the city. Me and Raluca went to check things out and just when we thought it was a false alarm...surprise...the kittens where indeed there. You could tell that they had no more than a couple of hours since they came into this world. They were very wet and cold, with their bellybuttons still there. Their first feeling of this world must have been extremely disappointing. Just because whoever did this didn't kill them immediately, it does not make them any less guilty of murder.

They're been taken care of, but we are not sure yet whether they will survive without their mother. I could say that I am tired of this, but I know that it's just the tip of the iceberg.

Sad end for the two babies, who died....:(



Monday, June 06, 2011

Acting responsible - "garbage"

This is me interacting with the Romanian authorities, and it's not the first time I'm doing this...

Before Easter my responsible neighbors cleaned the green area next to our apartment building. After gathering the plastic bottles, pieces of clothing, building material and all the other stuff Romanians love leaving around in nature, they did not call anyone to pick it up and just left it there. In the mean time rats and cockroaches made a living around it...not to mention the flees and ticks that have a blast in the tall grass that grew around the tiny garbage hills.

Pissed by the fact that for the last 21 years nobody ever came to clean this area, I called the Public Domain Authority...and they noted my concern...for three times in the past month and a half. Finally their verdict was that the are is not actually public, it's private. Even though there's no fence around and the land is basically abandoned (typical for Bucharest) they cannot come clean the area. When I asked whether there's a law punishing owners for basically abandoning their land the answer was simple..."No, I don't think so....it's just a matter of morality".

I found out that there is actually a law punishing this, but you have to call the Community Police in your district, they give you the phone number of your area's police. That's where you can make a complaint by phone. They were very kind and explained the whole procedure. Now it's in the hands of the environment section of the police department (I had no idea this existed). They will analyze the situation, discover who the owners are...send them a request to clean the land and if they don't do it....fine them.

My guess...the garbage is going to remain there for a long time, and most likely the hills will become mountains at some point.

Friday, May 27, 2011

ADOPTED Gremlins!

My two fostered gremlins went home. They now have a whole yard and three dogs to play with.

Gil is a 3 months old baby tomcat. He was found together with his brother in the engine of a car.

His brother has been adopted today, so he's now alone. He is extremely playful and brave. He doesn't care in my two older cats try to attack him and make funny sounds to intimidate him...

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Zurich

About a month ago I pined another city on my map - Zurich. Switzerland does not sound like a very promising land to me. I see it like a suited up country with a very German life style.

That's why I was not that anxious to be there. I thought it would be just another Germanic style city, with a few things to visit - most of all Protestant churches.

During the conference I didn't have so much time to visit around, except for the night when we had our client event. I have to say that by that time I already concluded that they just became my second favourite country on the food map - delicious dishes. My first glimpse of the city left me with the feeling of being part of a very well done painting. A painting that did not have human life in it - but very good looking buildings. Close to what I was expecting, but once the sunny weekend came, the German like city became very Italian.

Swiss people are a really good mix of hard work and leisure. I am still surprised to say that I enjoyed the city more than I expected. Their suits go off during the weekend and they reveal tattooed bodies, and a mix of personalities. The best frame I captured is that of two young couples in the park. The ones on the right were very romantic - he was playing the guitar for her and the one on the left were very though - he was doing push ups next to her.

Not to mention the beauty of the city....it definitely went between my top cities to live in...

Monday, May 16, 2011

ADOPTED baby Seth!

Abandoned in a metro station, Seth is a 3 weeks old kitty who needs a home.

His tiny blue eyes are the proof that he needed to stay with his momma longer. He's just learning how to eat and drink water from the bowl. His ears have not yet lifted and his tail makes him look like a funny furry small rat. He finds it difficult to maintain his balance...and when you're that small every step needs a little push.

Even so, he is a brave little kitten. He runs after you and tries to climb into your arms. He likes to discover new places like any curious cat, and his favorite place is under the bed.

Right now he's temporarily fostered into my office, but he needs to find a home by the end of the week.

Please help Seth discover the world and let him hug you for a while.

After learning in less then one week how to eat and use his litter box...Seth was adopted. His new name is Tomi and he has two cat brothers and a dog uncle :P

Friday, April 29, 2011

Reflection of The Self

Coming back to Bucharest also meant a come back to a lot of what "it used to be". The difference now was that what I used to have did not fit to what I was feeling anymore. I tried doing new things and continue others from where I left them, but it just didn't feel right. As a result, after a strong inside war and aggressive reactions I now feel sorry for, I managed to cut some strings. It is extremely difficult for me to stop talking to people and my reactions prove my struggle to convince myself that this is what I have to do.

I realized most of  these things only after actually listening to other people, and trying a bit of the personal development practices that are out there. I am still afraid of going in very deep, but what satisfied me and gave me trust, because I never felt the words "in my face", is Lise Bourbeau's methods. She is the founder of the Canadian school of Personal Development...a very trendy new wave.

"Listen to your body" is based on the 5 wounds (rejection, abandonment, humiliation, betrayal and injustice) that we all have within us, and the acknowledgment of the 5 masks (withdrawal, dependence, masochism, control, rigidity) that they bring to life when activated. The wounds are created from the moment of conception till you are about 7 years old. After that, whenever a person or an action that you come across in your life subconsciously takes you back to something that happened in your development period, your wound is activated and your mask comes up. That's when you stop being yourself and react as some would say a mental person.
When I first got her book I was actually afraid to read it, so I just skimmed it. The first mask I found myself under was rigidity. I do look for perfection and I am afraid of injustice. The wound is created in your relationship with the same sex parent...I never went further to discover when and why...but from the reactions that this mask determines, I am fully there. The bad part is that when I feel injustice towards me I become a bit aggressive and accuse people of not being responsible enough. I also tend to say "yes" when I mean "no" or force myself to smile even if I don't feel like it. These are just a small part of the phrases I saw myself reflected in. I am sure that a lot of the people I know or knew can say that this is right. I was happy to think that this was it...this is not that bad and anger is part of our system. The only thing is that I am a lot more aggressive, and by reading a bit more I have to accept that I also have a wound created by the opposite sex parent and that wound is betrayal.

I acknowledged it after attending a seminar this week and looking back at my quick reply to "what do you hate most in others?" - LIE. After reading the description of my newly acknowledged mask I saw myself as a control freak....especially in my relationships...all of them. I do get cocky, I do become aggressive, I do lose my patience very fast and I do feel like I must have the last word. It is not easy to say it...at all...especially for someone who's other mask looks for perfection.

This is an important step....now I have to try and fix them they say, and this is where things get complicated.

It was easier of course to recognize a lot of the people I know/knew in these masks. You would be amazed how easy it is to get that person's image in your head as you go through the reactions an activated wound has. I guess that after seeing yourself so easily reflected in a list of ugly things you do to other people, it's not that easy to move on. I do not feel depressed, I might feel ashamed after seeing my reflection there. Still I kinda like my wounds...I just have to find a way to ware out my aggressive vision towards life.

If you are not afraid of finding out a bit about the skeletons in your personal closet, then I recommend that you skim, not necessarily read - Heal Your Wounds & Find Your True Self by Lise Bourbeau. It is childish to think that you do not have any of these things, try it...go through it alone and offer yourself a moment to think. The answer will come to your mind...it's just a matter of accepting it or not. She has a lot of other good books I would recommend, but try at least this one.

Friday, February 25, 2011

Animus - Anima

"...pe canapeau din salon Ea si El nu sunt singuri. Au insotitori launtrici care le hotarasc atractiile sau repulsiile fara stirea lor. Acesti insotitori sunt animus si anima....Urma arhetipului e vizibila in faptul ca orice individ poarta in el o reprezentare mai mult sau mai putin clara a partenerului ideal. In inconstient exista o dispozitie innascuta de a produce o asemenea reprezentare. 

... Jung a dat acestor tendinte universale numele de arhetipuri. In cazul particular care ne procupa el a dat numele de "anima" reprezentarii launtrice a femininului la barbat si pe cel de "animus" reprezentarii masculinului la femeie. Psihanalistul elvetian a ajuns la aceste concluzii analizand visurile a numerosi barbati si femei. A constatat ca barbatii visau adesea femei necunoscute si mistrioase si ca aceste vise le inspirau de cele mai multe ori respect. Cat priveste femeile, in visele lor apareau de multe ori grupuri de barbati care exercitau asupra lor aceeasi fascinatie. Jung a ajuns la concluzia urmatoare: contraponderea noastra sexuala, cea care a fost reprimata din cauza sexului nostru nedeclarat, continua sa traiasca in noi sub trasaturile unei persoane de sex opus.

E vorba de cealalta jumatatate a noastra. E vorba de personalitatea noastra interioara, pe acre insa, pentru ca nu o cunoastem, o cautam in afara noastra. De aici intregul joc al asteptarilor si iluziilor ce se nasc in iubire, caci dorim nespus ca partenerii nostri sa corespunda imaginii ideale pe care o purtam in noi. Totul se petrece ca si cum animus si anima ne-ar incurca in avetura iubirii, dar adevarata lor functie este sa fie recunoscute ca dimensiuni ale fiintei noastre launtrice. Cat timp le pretindem partenerilor nostri sa se schimbe, le cerem sa intruchipeze intocmai arhetipul pe care-l purtam in noi; ceea ce evident le este cu neputinta.

Probabil ca in realitate, animus si anima cheama atat la aventura setimentala exterioara, cat si la aventura creatoare launtrica. Intr-o prima perioada a vietii, cand cunoastem iubirea, ele ne scot de sub tutela familiei, incutandu-ne sa cream propria noastra unitate familiala.

... Dar, desi animus si anima reprezinta insusi arhetipul vietii care ne cere sa evoluam departe de parintii nostri, trebuie spus ca aceleasi figuri pot ramane prozoniere ale complexelor parentale daca acestea sunt puternice si negative. Atunci ele inhiba tendinta de autonomie a tinerilor barbati sau femei. Tema este de altfel exploatata si in basme, in care vedem o printesa inchisa de tatal ei in turnul castelului. In plan simbolic, cavalerul care vine sa o salveze reprezinta deopotriva animusul ce se trezeste in fata si iubirea care o face sa paraseasca mediul parental.

In tendita spre autonomie nu se poate implini din cauza unor compleze parentale care inhiba eul si impiedica dezvoltarea naturala, animus si anima se transforma in contrariul lor. Capacitatea unei femei de a lua initiative devine atunci asteptare pasiva. Daca situatia se prelungeste, animusul ei, incatusat fiind, isi pierde forta sau se inacreste. In vreme ce animus reprezinta capacitatea unieu femei de a lua initiative, anima reprezinta capacitatea de a iubi a unui barbat. Daca barbatul isi reprima sensibilitatea, aceasta poate deveni capricioasa si agitata, cerandu-si drepturile sub forma unori umori irationale care, impotriva vointei lui, pun stapanire pe el. Un asemena barbat se poate lasa prada deprimarii si disperarii fara a opune rezistenta. 

... La modul general, animus reprezinta curajul, initiativa, fermitatea, actiunea, verbul si spiritualitatea in sesn larg; intruchiparile lui sunt omul de curaj si de actiune, artistul, liderul carismatic sau maestrul spiritual. Iar acestea sunt intr-adevar calitatile pe care femeile le cauta adesea la barbati. Anima intruchipea`a sentimentele, satrile sufletesti vagi, intuitiile, capacitatea de iubire personala, sentimentul naturii, relatia cu inconstientul. Ea apare in cultura sub trasaturile femeii evanescente si mistrioase, ale ruralei senzuale si patimase, ale femeii poetice si cultivate, ale calauzei spirituale sau ale preotesei. Sunt totodata tipurile de femei pe care le cauta barbatii.

Jung observa ca,la barbatul care s eidentifica puternic cu ratiunea sa si care nu da curs nevoilor sale relationale, anima se va exprima sub forma unor unori incontrolabile si irationale ce pun stapanire pe el in momente neasteptate. Aceste umori spontane il poseda si fenomenul va persista atat timp cat el nu va stbili un raport constient cu feminitate alui interioara. Din acelasi motiv, se va indragosti fulgerator atunci cand va "recunoaste" inconstient o parte din el insusi in alta persoana. Altfel spus, sensibilitatea lui inconstienta are puterea de a pune stapanire pe el fara voia lui pentru ca nu i se face loc in viata constienta. 

....Acelasi lucru este valabil pentru femeia identificata cu feminitatea traditionala. Ea sustine mortis opinii imposibil de sustinut din punct de vedere rational, fara sa abuca vreun argument in sprijinul spuselor sale. Ea stie si asta ar trebui sa fie suficient. Este supusa unui atac al animusului, comparabil cu asaltul pe care anima in da asupra barbatului. femeia nu va putea scapa de domnul aceast care se pretinde atotstiutor decat atunci cand ii va da o sansa de a se exprima mai bie si va indrazni sa-si confrunte parerile cu relaitatea comuna si obiectiva.

...Jung tragea concluzia ca femeia ii cauta pe toti barbatii intr-un singur barbat, in vreme ce barbatul cauta femeia din toate femeile. Iata de ce femeia este in general mai fidela decat barbatul si adesea ea se teme de barbati, vazut ca grup nediferentiat, in timp ce prezenta unui partener o linisteste; dimpotriva, un barbat se teme de intimitatea cu o femeie, dar nu se va teme de femeie in general.

....In rezumat, am putea spune ca anima e acea frota din barbat care inspira nevoia de a iubi si de a fi iubit, de a ocroti si de a fi apreciat. Este capacitatea de iubire si de aceptare, de toleranta extrema si de compasiune nesfarsita. Pervertita, ea se transforma in dependenta, supunere, servitute, sclavie si masochism. reprimata, devina raceala, respingere, apasare, Ea il va face pe barbat sa caute inconstient partenere care intruchipeaza unul sau altul din aceste aspecte, permitandu-i astfel sa se descopere pe sine.

Animusul este acea energie care se implineste transformand materia prin vointa sa. Este puterea de actiune, de miscare, de initiativa. Perverti, devine fantezie maniaca, autoritarism, dictatura, sadism. Reprimat se transforma in slabiciune, lipsa de rigoare, autodistrugere. Femeia va cauta si ea parteneri care-i intruchipeaza aceste dimensiuni inconstiente, pentru a invata sa se cunoasca."

Exista iubiri fericite?
Guy Corneau

Tuesday, February 01, 2011

Why I'd rather be a Dog than a Romanian

Recently an old problem of the Romanian society was brought in the spotlight.

Event:
A woman was killed by a pack of dogs on a private property. The woman did not enter the property through the gate, but through a hole in the fence. Those dogs were of common breed, but were kept in the yard to protect it from scrap thieves.

Reaction:
All stray dogs represent a problem and should be taken off the streets of Bucharest/ Romania, and most likely euthanised because they are too many (about 20 thousand) and it's too expencive to manage them.

Stupidity fact no. 1:
In Romania there is no law that obliges owners to register their pets. Those dogs were kept there and fed with the purpose of protecting the yard. They were unfortunate to be of common breed. If those were, let's say, Rottweilers then they were guard dogs ment to protect that yard - how stupid can one be to think that stray dogs can also be considered guard dogs?! In certain countries you can shoot a person without any question if he/she enters a private property.

Doesn't matter the stray dogs are responsible!

Stupitidy fact no. 2:
Stray dogs have always been a problem for Romania, before and after the communist regime. Because Romanian politics, and the society in general, is built by the same old, lazy, mischevous fucks, nothing has been done until now - and will not from now on either. Stray dogs are a very good argument in campaigns, because people are very sensible to the problem.

After the event, TV channels and newspapers reacted acording to their political color. The media reactions were either extremly harsh, with images of dogs attacking eachother and people...or very gentle, but without realistic solutions to the problem and avoiding to point the finger on those responsible for the situation we are in. The public opinion's reaction was not suprising at all ... depending on what they hear, they react - for example if at the very moment a person has 3 arguments against stray dogs, everybody will agree; if after five minutes someone else comes with more or less than 3 argumets for stray dogs the same group of people will most likely agree again.

It's not the first time I notice that Romanians are mentally unstable. Hitler would be ashamed of how fast he would convince these people to kill eachother.

A lot of money are put in the city's budget to solve this problem, every year...and like magic it becomes worse and worse.The only realistic solution to the problem, but one that would also take some time, would be to pass a law that forces all dog owners to register their dogs and those that are not of pure breed to be spayed and neutered. This law exists but has been waiting to pass the Parliament for over three years. Also, abandoning a pet should be a falony. A law actually exists that punishes those abandoning their animals on the public domain, but from my experience I can tell you that it does not apply. Again, stray dogs are a very good argument in campaigns and bring a lot of money.

As for the stray dogs we already have, I believe that they are everybody's responsability. We are a society and we have to be together for better and for worse.

Stupidity fact no. 3
Romanians like violence. They enjoy blood and murder, just like most of the people on this planet who still let their cerebellar tonsil coordinate their emotions. The general reaction was "THEY HAVE TO DIE!!! We do not care whether they are humanly euthanised or not, whom do we have to pay to kill them?"

Romania is an orthodox country...this means traditional Christians that believe in God and obey the 10 Comandmants. There is a church at every crossroad and 70% of the people on the bus will make the cross sign and say something when they pass a church. Trust me...this means a lot of cross signs in one day. Over 90% of the population has a cross or a picture of a holy someone in their house, their purse, their car (some might even have 50 crosses on the windshield - it's a trend lately), their office etc.When you hear this, you expect a bunch of charitable, compassionate, mersiful, generous, forgiving and pitiful (all sinonyms were needed) people ... but their first reaction is KILL THEM, I DO NOT CARE HOW.

Hmmm....let us reconsider our belief system. Doesn't one of those comendments say "DO NOT KILL"? I don't recall a "P.S. except for stray dogs".

The stray dogs must be responsible for this also. After all, they are the ones fucking with peoples brains so that they don't know what to do and think anymore.

Stupidity fact no. 4
Romanians have no idea about civic culture. I remember I used to learn that in school, in the 3rd grade or something....my sister never did - 11 years later. After all what do we need civic culture for?! We are here to make money and to fight - even if this involves using detours. Romania is Machiavelli's perfect picture at the moment.

For this reason, it's not just the dogs that are responsible, but also those loosers volunteering to take them of the streets and take care of them. They blabel about spaying and neutering, and refuse to understand that the only way to get rid of the problem is to kill all stray dogs :))

These are just a few of the arguments for which I would rather be a dog that's doing what he's "paid" to do than a mentally deranged, mischievous Romanian.

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

The Bible

Two summers ago, in Spain, all women on the metro were reading these really large books I have never heard about. I got curious and that's how I found out about Larsson's Millennium. To my shame I only finished reading them two years later...

I've never written a book review and I'm definitely not going to start now. The books are frightfully thick, but you can't imagine how fast they capture you and they get glued to your hands and your mind. Larsson was about to write 12 novels with the same skinny, weird Lisbeth Salander as the main character, but unfortunately he died soon after finishing the third. I can't help but wonder whether the others would've been just as fascinating. I did most of the reading on the bus, where I've even been asked whether I'm reading the Bible :))

A series of Swedish movies has been made after the books. Saw the first one, and all I can say is that it doesn't compare. If you like the movie you're going to love the book. Director Daniel Alfredson tried to catch the essence of the books in a series of shocking movies, with very violent scenes. They are R rated for a good reason.

Friday, January 21, 2011

Management vs. Leadership

Adrian Stanciu  - How you do is more important than what you do
http://www.humansynergistics.ro/Rezultate%20ale%20cercetărilor-studii%20de%20caz-23.html

To read:
Daniel Golman - Emotional Intelligence
Dan Ariely - Predictably Irrational
Dan Pink - Drive
Kant - Introduction in the Metaphysics of Morals
Henri Fayol
Karen Horney

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

One year of volunteering

I have not been the most active volunteer ever, but it's been a whole year of cats and dogs stories. I decided to do this mostly because I love animals and I wanted to stop complaining about the problems Romania has and start doing something. Though it's not a "strict day to day job" its impact may be greater.

It may seem difficult to work with animals, because you have to learn want their needs are, but as long as you give them space, it will work out right. Animals express themselves easily and know how to make you see though their eyes as long as you are willing. They might be unpredictable sometimes, I almost got bitten a couple of times due to faulty communication, but the answer is to never panic and act as natural as possible. It surely helps you control your feelings better. This hobby becomes serious when you realize that you actually handle lives and just like a doctor you can never make a mistake during surgery.

It's been a great experience. I fostered a couple of cats, I saved an abandoned dog, I attended animal adoption fairs, I learned more about the medical needs of animals, even learned how to vaccinate dogs, I know what an animal shelter looks like and how difficult it is to feed and clean after 100 dogs, I know more about the Romanian policies towards abandoned animals and that the authorities ignore the problem completely, I definitely learned more about the non existing limits of human cruelty towards other beings.  All these with the help of a group of volunteers (mostly girls) who also turned a hobby into a life saving marathon.

I would like to do more this year when it comes to volunteering. It's not so popular in Romania, but I hope that volunteering will attract more people in time. Volunteering for anything helps and raises your self esteem. It adds a great value to you as a person and helps you learn more not just about different things you didn't learn in school, but also about yourself.

Saturday, January 01, 2011

A new year

I spent my last day of 2010 just as I spent the rest of the year...alone...with my cats. I got dressed and ready to go out. I stayed in line at a club with my best friend, and all of a sudden I realized that I did not wanted to be there. The person standing next to me has been out of my life for half of this year for good reasons, and I realized that her return was a bad idea ... I admit my bad habit of returning behind well sealed doors. 2010 has definitely been a year of solitude for me and I feel that I closed up a lot, even if tests would prove me wrong, because I opened myself towards something different.

One of my resolutions for this year is to regain my trust in people, but now I'm not sure I'd like to do that anymore. I have a feeling that is going to be a hell of a year ... I am really confident and positive, and I definitely want to make the best of it and not myself get lost.