There is no certain receipt saying that, when you choose to add an ingredient in your life it will make you sweet or sour. This receipt is not written in books and cannot be easily made by following certain steps. You only find out if you added the right ingredient after you taste it. If you close your eyes after you taste it and pleasant feelings go through your body (just like in Ratatouille) than you go it right.
Sometimes what we think is right for us turns up to be nothing but agonizing pain. Still our huge egos don’t let us give up, wanting to prove something and trying not to disappoint anybody, including itself. Long term decision can be even more dangerous because as time passes we change. We change our minds, we change our perspective or we just grow and realize that this is not what we want. Still, the ego steps in and forces us to peruse what used to be a beautiful dream even though it easily turns it into a nightmare…a nightmare, that turns into every day routine and from which we try to escape with small, insignificant pleasures. And when the pain lasts longer than it should we get used and don’t feel it anymore, until we get reminded about how it shatters other beautiful dreams and turns them too into nothing but nightmares.
Why can't it be easy?!